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How to Get a Divorce- Mediation

April 25, 2013
Image courtesy of mrpuen/

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This is the second in a multi-part series -How to Get a Divorce- Collaborative Divorce in Difficult Economic Times- on your options in the divorce process by A Better Divorce member, Christopher M. Moore of Moore, Bryan & Schroff LLP in Torrance, California.


Mediation is a popular alternative to litigation. It’s less expensive than using the court system and avoids court delays. The mediation process is confidential and nothing said there may be used later against you in court. It’s informal and can resolve cases quickly.

Mediation can have a downside. Anyone can call himself or herself a mediator. Ideally, the divorce mediator is an experienced divorce lawyer who is trained in mediation.

The potential for abuse is often cited as the most serious potential problem in mediation. A domineering spouse with a history of physical, verbal or mental abuse may propose mediation as a way to get what he or she wants in the divorce settlement. If your spouse has dominated you throughout the marriage, you’ve had arguments about money or other things and have never won one, or you feel afraid to challenge your spouse, mediation is probably not right for you. In mediation the parties meet with the mediator alone, outside the presence of their lawyers, and if the playing field is not level because of the parties’ history, mediation is not likely to produce an appropriate outcome.

Christopher Moore is a member of A Better Divorce- A Collaborative Family Law Group in the South Bay area of California, a certified family law specialist, and a fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. He has specialized in family law for many years. Those years as a litigator have taught him that collaborative practice is the best way to resolve a divorce. A collaborative case is always faster, costs less and is less stressful than a conventional case where the parties face court congestion, delays and an adversarial, often hostile, relationship. For more information about Christopher and his firm please click here.

Always consult an attorney in your own area.
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  1. April 30, 2013 4:52 pm

    Ha ha ha when I saw “Christopher Moore” I thought of the CM who wrote “The Mediation Process!” Great article all the same…….thanks!

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